Embracing the Gray

The Mirror Principle

In today's episode of Embracing the Gray, Vic and Kels talk about the Mirror Principle. Kels shares a bit of a personal moment that recently happened  where her own self-defeating narratives created unnecessary drama for her and her new partner in hopes that you can relate it to some of your own narratives and prevent similar experiences in your life. 
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One implication of the mirror principle is this: When we set our calendars, we define who we will be. The activities that populate each hour of our schedules are the sum and substance of how we’ll experience ourselves that day.
"In leadership, the first person we must examine is ourselves. That’s the Mirror Principle. If our self-perception is distorted, then our attempts to influence others will be misguided or even manipulative. The first person I must know is myself; this brings self-awareness. Human nature seems to endow people with the ability to size up everybody in the world but themselves! When steering a team, as when driving a car, neglecting to check your blind spots can cause you to wreck.The first person I must get along with is myself. This leads to a healthy self-image. If we think negatively of ourselves, we will seek validation from others—extracting value from them. On the contrary, if we have a positive view of ourselves, we will be secure enough to add value to the people around us.The first person to cause me problems is myself. Admitting this truth yields self-honesty. You never win when you play the blame game; you only whine. And complainers drag down the morale of everyone around them.The first person I must change is myself. This empowering attitude paves the way to self-improvement. “Everyone thinks of changing the world,” said Leo Tolstoy, “but no one thinks of changing himself.”
 
SUMMARY:If I see value in myself I’ll add value to myself. If I don’t see value in myself I won’t add value to me. But, if I don’t see value in me, the high probability is that I won’t see value in you.What happens is this, the law of the mirror basically says this:If your self-worth isn’t what it needs to be, what it could be and what it should be, then you are not only short changing yourself in reaching your potential, but you are short changing everybody around you in helping them reach their potential also.
 
BOOKS WE LOVEFirst Things First by Stephen Covey
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch 
 
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When You’re Tempted To Go On A Diet

In today's episode of Embracing the Gray, Vic and Kels talk about the desire to go back on a diet. Oftentimes when we are on our healing journey, it can be uncomfortable to not go back to old habits or behavior patterns of wanting to measure our progress by the scale. It can be difficult to not want the quick hit of weight loss. This is why it is so important to remember that weight loss is not a behavior, and that quick or drastic weight loss is often unsustainable and can set us up for long term weight gain.Today's episode is a reminder to keep your eye on your WHY. 
 
BOOKS WE LOVEFirst Things First by Stephen Covey
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch 
 
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What No One Tells You About Weight Loss

In today's episode of Embracing the Gray, Vic and Kels talk about Victoria's weight loss journey and all that went on behind the scenes of your physical transformation. You'll learn:-When her journey actually started -The dark side of complimenting weight loss-The secret to feeling confident and not giving any "flying F's" as to what people think about your body-Tips for you on your health and weight loss journey
 
BOOKS WE LOVEFirst Things First by Stephen Covey
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch 
 
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Trust Yourself

In today's episode of Embracing the Gray, Vic and Kels talk about the secret to being confident and how to build trust with yourself. 
 
BOOKS WE LOVEFirst Things First by Stephen Covey
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch 
 
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Are you living the life you want?

In today's episode of Embracing the Gray, Vic and Kels conduct a "Life Audit" and reflect on their first month of 2023, as well as ask 5 life changing questions. Tune in to hear the though provoking questions that can impact your life TODAY. 
 
BOOKS WE LOVEFirst Things First by Stephen Covey
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch 
 
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Our Lessons From 2022

In today's episode of Embracing the Gray, Vic and Kels reflect on their top 3 lessons they have learned throughout 2022, as well as, recognize how each other has really grown in this last year. 
 
BOOKS WE LOVE
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch 
 
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Shadow Work | Accepting What You Don’t Like About Yourself

In today's episode of Embracing the Gray, Vic and Kels discuss the newly released movie on Netflix called "Stutz" featuring Jonah Hill and Phil Stutz. Vic and Kels talk about the hard things. The things we want to hide. Tune in to learn about your shadow and how you can relate to it. 
LINKS
Stutz the Movie⁠The Tools
 
BOOKS WE LOVE
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch 
 
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Thanksgiving Special: 5 Tips for a Guilt-Free Holiday Experience

In today's episode of Embracing the Gray, Vic and Kels give you their top 5 tips to help you not only survive this Thanksgiving, but to THRIVE! You can have freedom with food and a beautiful life experience this holiday without the fear of diet talk or food guilt bringing you down.
LINKS
DBT Cope Ahead Worksheet⁠
BOOKS WE LOVE
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch 
 
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Deciding vs. Wanting

In today's episode of Embracing the Gray, Vic and Kels discuss the difference between wanting versus deciding. They go into Seligman's Dog experiment as it relates to learned helplessness, the power of choice, how you can apply this to your own lives.
LINKS
Seligman's Experiment
 
QUOTES
The more you repeat a behavior, the more you reinforce the identity associated with that behavior. In fact, the word identity was originally derived from the Latin words essentitas, which means being, and identidem, which means repeatedly. Your identity is literally your “repeated beingness.”⁠ 
— James Clear, Atomic Habits⁠
BOOKS WE LOVE
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch 
 
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Love Yourself to the Body You Want

In today’s episode of Embracing the Gray, Vic and Kels discuss what happens in your life when you truly come from a place or respect and love. They touch on the compounding interest of caring for yourself, the connection between thoughts, feelings, and actions, the importance of boundaries, and the struggles of self-sabotaging cycles. Never forget that you have the power to change your thoughts!
 
QUOTES
People learn how to treat us based on how they see us treating ourselves. If I don’t put value on my work or my time, neither will the person I helping. Boundaries are a function of self-respect and sale love.” - Brene Brown
 
VIDEO MENTIONS
Obese to Beast - Go to the Doctor
 
BOOKS WE LOVE
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch 
 
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Book a FREE Strategy Session with Kels
Break Free from All-or-Nothing with Food
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